Dismantling the Remnants of a Life

Dismantling the remnants of a life.

Removing the material possessions of one who lived so long.

“I’m sorry you will have to deal with all my stuff,” she had said.

“It’s not so much,” I replied.

“There’s more than you think.”

She was right.

More and less. Perhaps there should be more to show for a life so well-lived.

But the stuff is just stuff.

The important things are the memories.

The lives she touched.

That makes up a world.

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